Marriage- A Ritual or a Constrain?

Marriage- For some a happy beginning and for the rest, life imprisonment. it's completely up to your perspective, your spouse, your choice, your decision; how you see or feel it. Can't say about others but yes, Indian parents are pretty much concerned about whom their children should marry. If observed, you'll get to see that restriction not really applies to the males but only on the spinsters of the family. 

No matter how good you are in your studies or hold which higher degree until you won't marry a guy of your parent's choice, everyone is going to question your character and upbringing constantly, including your parents. And this one thought is very-well said by Sonam Kapoor in her upcoming movie 'Veere Di Wedding,' she said- 'jitna bhi padh lo graduation, post graduation, par jab tak b******d mangalsutr nahi latka naah tab tak life complete nahi hai'  (no matter which higher degree you hold until you don't marry, life isn't complete). Though it was just a movie shot but unfortunately is the part of bitter reality. 

The moment a girl turns 18,  suddenly the entire list of unknown people (called relatives) will pop-out of their shells & will bombard you with endless rishtay (marriage proposals). All they need is to attend a marriage function breaking their mundane daily routine for a while & get some hot gossip to share on such pious occasions. 

When we are living in a digital or so-called-developed age, why a girl isn't asked about anything like her choice of life partner, her dreams, her passion or what she wants to do in her life? why are we still rooted in those old-school stereotypes and almost murdering a girl's dream? This is certainly a matter of concern and shame for everyone who loves leveraging the present time trends like- Whatsapp or Facebook but sadly question a girl gruesomely when she leaves the home for an evening party. 

I don't say, I'm against marriage or any other relationship in the world, my only concern or thought is, one should establish a relationship, especially like marriage only when s/he feels prepared for the same. Instead of paying attention to the 'Ghar ki izzat' or 'log/ rishtedar kya kahenge' stagnant dialogues, you must think if the proposal is a suitable match for you or not. At the end of the day, not your parents but you are the only one who has to survive in this relationship. You would be living in a new home, with the new family members, so THINK!

There are times when people go blind in their day-dreaming imaginations and marry at an inappropriate age which often leads to divorce and make things worst. It's pretty easy if you are not happy with whom you are, initiate and leave it to live a peaceful & happy life ahead. It is not a marriage that's going decides your future, certainly. More than this, it is your happiness, self-respect and mental peace which should matter the most. 

So, think and make a wise decision because a relationship like marriage is not meant to be considered as a burden or to be broken. It is more of a new life where you share your emotions, habits, and families together, so make sure you do it well & never have to feel regret about the same.